No it's not my intention to rant and rave like one of those bitter singles on Valentine's day. But I often question the motives behind those that go out and dish out a wad of cash to buy roses/flowers, stuffed teddies and a box of chocolates for their "sweethearts". Is the motive really to show their genuine affection for that "special" someone that is currently in their lives(and I say currently because quite often a good number of those relationships hardly last beyond a month or a week), or is it simply to follow like sheep and do the predictable and pretend that they are that devoted to someone/admired by someone? We're all suckers for "love". But I feel that so few really understand or know the work it entails and we invest all that time trying to live out some Hollywood version of that affection. We want so much to be with The One, that we're willing to play pretend with whomever we share an inkling of romantic feelings with at the present. Some even settle, for the longer term. And potentially fail.
You can't purchase ones affection. Any affection won over solely by material things is nothing. Its been said many times before and I'll say it again.....we have ample days of the year to show someone how much we care about them. Shouldn't everyday be celebrated as such?It's the gesture or the thought behind it that counts. Not the value of the object. It's as though we choose one day solely to make up for the laziness of being thoughtful towards others everyday of our lives. Yes its origine comes from the celebration of the Saint Valentine (Valentinus), which according to my searches; whose existance and life story isn't even largely known to us. (As quoted by Pope Gelasius I, he named him among those "... whose names are justly reverenced among men, but whose acts are known only to God."). Well not much chance of finding out who he was if you're not religious. No guarantees you'll even get to dicuss it with God, even if you do believe in his existance. He has a lot of questions to answer to no doubt. And I'm certain that those who will get the opportunity to have a chat with The Man, that won't likely be the first question they'll think to ask.
Yes it seems quite romantic to dedicate a day to the celebration of love. But I'll admit that it serves to me as a reminder of what I feel might be lacking from my life. It's a day that tends to bring me down, even though I tell myself it's just another commercial holiday. The thought of being thought of or admired by another is always pleasant. We all yearn to be loved and desired by another. It just irks me, because its turned into yet another crazy spending day of the year. I think I'd take the Honest words "I love you" over a box of chocolates any day of year!
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